Believe it!!!

Today, I let my mind wander…

After a short meditation, I went back about ten years in time.
And all because of Love…
Or rather, because of my Vision of Love.

A very limited Vision of Love, I must say.

I used to believe that Love was something unattainable, an illusion created by fairy tales…
Love was something people searched for in order to entertain themselves and divert their minds, their Consciousness, their Focus toward something they would never truly achieve, but which kept them occupied and distracted from the things that disturbed them.

Because of all this, to me Love was something that caused suffering and disappointment, so there was no logic in searching for it. I could not even understand why so much Energy was wasted because of Love.

At that time, I was living in a phase where I was disconnected from my emotions. In fact, very early in life, I blocked my emotions. Because of that, I lived very superficial Relationships, without any emotional connection to others, without Love.

And I am not speaking only about romantic relationships; I am speaking about every kind of Relationship.

The truth is that I lived Relationships very focused on the act of having someone, rather than on the act of genuinely relating to that person.

Perhaps because of that, I was always an enigma to many people, because there was never an authentic Connection between me and the people with whom I “related.”

Ten years later, I see Love in a completely different way.

We are Love! Love is what articulates us, what composes us; it is the Energy that connects each of the worlds that make up the human being — the physical world, the mental world, the emotional world, and the spiritual world.

Love is the energy that articulates and interconnects all these worlds and allows us to become Harmony.

One of the things that changed in my Vision of Love was realizing that we do not need to be balanced and harmonious in order to live a loving relationship. Because there are people who enter our lives to help us question something that is throwing us out of balance… to question Beliefs, to question fears, to question attitudes and behaviors…

They exist in our lives to help us rebalance, to understand what serves us and what does not serve us, what harms us and what benefits us, what we should keep and what we should let go, how we can Flow through life and how life can Flow through us.

Curiously, nowadays, the idea is gaining strength that “I cannot enter into a Relationship until I am well, because I will make the Relationship fail or because I will hurt someone.”

This doubt touches us all and leads us to the great secret of Love (a secret more than well known, although sometimes surprising): Love is not only for the good moments; Love is not only for when people are balanced, capable of being happy, and able to behave appropriately within a relationship.

Love is also for the moments when we have behaviors that are not appropriate for the relationship, because understanding and acceptance are part of Love.

We are all Love in its purest, most authentic, genuine, and vulnerable form!

The truth is that there are moments when we feel out of harmony and out of balance; for that reason we have behaviors, attitudes, fears, feelings, and thoughts that are not exactly appropriate — they are not our most authentic, genuine, or vulnerable selves — they are conditioned by everything that throws us off alignment: fears, doubts, judgments, and guilt that we accumulate, making us unable to give the relationship everything it needs in order to be balanced and harmonious.

That does not mean we cannot be in that relationship. We can and, most likely, we should!

It is essential for us and for the other person to experience that whole reality filled with insecurities, inconsistencies, doubts, and disharmonies.

The most important thing is the Consciousness with which we live it.

We must be aware that there are moments when we are not capable of doing better. And if it becomes necessary to withdraw and stay in our own corner, that is perfectly fine! Introspection is fundamental for promoting our Balance!

If time is needed… I am not speaking about “taking a break” away from the other person; I am speaking about giving time to each other, so that we may feel better, more capable, and become Conscious of what is causing that instability.

We can do it together or with the help of others. Whatever form makes Sense to us, all of it is part of a relationship, part of Love, part of a loving experience.

And blocking a Relationship before it even begins, because we have not yet forgiven ourselves for all the mistakes made in the past, is also blocking the awareness of the lessons that other loving experiences brought us and refusing gratitude and forgiveness.

If we look back and observe our past relationships, we will probably identify patterns from one relationship to another. Patterns are Choices, types of people, mistakes, that we repeat from relationship to relationship. And this makes us conscious of what we are attracting into our lives.

Whenever we do not become Conscious of the lessons each relationship brings us, the experience repeats itself until we become Conscious of the Lesson!

This awareness is fundamental for growth and for the maturation of who we are.

And sometimes we need someone to help us open our eyes and see life in another way! It can even become shocking how everything happens!

Feeling an incomprehensible attraction toward someone who is not at all our type; who goes against everything we have always searched for and admired in a person; who questions everything we believed made Sense to us…

Someone who completely breaks the pattern we have lived — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually speaking! Someone who does not correspond to the kind of woman or man we are used to, nor to the type of relationship we easily enter into… and who moves us so deeply that we are transformed from within!

That shocks us! That frightens us! It scares us!

And it leads us to deny the relationship; first, because we still have not forgiven ourselves for past mistakes; second, because we do not understand the reason for such a strong connection; and third, because we do not believe that person could be happy with someone like us — we will probably ruin everything again, especially because we know we have a behavioral pattern that causes relationships to end.

How many people in the world could say they have never felt this way?

I do not know! The truth is that many of us have already lived through it, in one way or another.

If it happens again, think: why would this wonderful person, for whom you feel affection and special friendship, be entering your life now if they were not capable of accompanying you through this more troubled period of your life?

Remember that the Relationships we live are meant to help us mature and heal the wounds we carry within our hearts.

In Love there is mutual support, there is a Connection of souls constantly transforming — this transformation serves our growth, our Path toward what is most essential to us: unconditional Love.

This Path is winding, filled with obstacles, pauses, and setbacks… it is a Path that forces us to believe and, above all, forces us to demystify Beliefs, people, guilt, and expectations.

That is why Love is an Energy that articulates us through the vicissitudes of life.

Love is the Energy we share through a subtle touch, a hug, a kiss, sex, understanding, Acceptance, or a moment in which we simply sit in Silence beside one another and remain there.

Everything we share with someone is infused with Love!

The truth is that we can look at another person with eyes of Understanding, Gratitude, and Acceptance; or we can look with criticism, guilt, and judgment.

Either way, the gift directed toward us continues to be Love, even if we do not receive it as such!

We always have that Choice: to receive or not to receive what is offered to us.

If you choose to accept the Love offered to you, truly appreciate it!

If you choose not to accept it, Share what you are feeling, whatever it may be.

You will probably be surprised by the response!

Love flows in a strange and rare way!